Suhagraat Shadi ki Pehli Raat kaise Guzare ?

Jab shadi or rukhsati ho gayi or dulhan ko shohar apne makan par le aaya,

to ab yakinan unme khalwat or tanhayi hogi.

is silsile me kuch aadab o usul or kuch bate jaan lena zaruri he.

    1. Dulha or dulhan ko chahye k rukhsati (shadi) se pehle wala din is tarah na guzare k bilkul thake huwe ho or aaram ka koi moqa na mila ho balke din me moqa nikal kar kuch waqt aaram kar lena chahye. Take dono ki mulaqat k waqt tabiat chusti, inbisat or badan me tazgi ho.
    2. Inbisat or khushgawari k asbab sahulat k sath mayassar aa jaye to intezam kar lena chahye, masalan phal fruits,nim garam dudh, choclates, mithai wagera, khushbu or room ki b kuch sajavat b honi chahye,magar baaz jagaho par usme bahut hi mubalaga kiya jata he or honeymoon sweets ya bed room ko sanwarne k liye hazaro rupiye kharch kiye jate he, ye israf or fuzul kharchi he jisse gunah hoga.
    3. Agar naqad mahar us waqt(pehli raat) dene ka riwaj na ho to koi or chiz mahar k alawa bivi k mizaj or pasand ki riaayat karke hadiya k tor par pesh kar deni chahye,uske bager usse nafa uthana mardana Gerat or sharafat k khilaf he.
    4. Pehli mulaqat me baat chit or guftagu se pehle “AssalamuAlaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu” kahe or phir Aurat ki peshani or uske galo par hath rakh kar ye dua parhna chahye.

      اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ خَيْرَهَا وَخَيْرَ مَا جَبَلْتَهَا عَلَيْهِ ، وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ شَرِّهَا وَشَرِّ مَا جَبَلْتَهَا عَلَيْهِ

      Tarjuma: (Aey allah! Mai is aurat ki kher o bhalai ka or kher aapne usme rakhi he or jis chiz par aap ne use peda farmaya he un sab ka sawal karta hu or aurat k shar se or jo shar or burai usme rakhi he or jis par aap ne usko peda kiya he usse aapki panah mangta hu.) Dua ka tarjuma samajh kar ya dekh kar parhe.

      Note: agar dulhan is amal ko acha na jane to use samjhaye k ye sunnat amal he. Usse mana na kare ,usme kher hogi.

    5. Ye b aadam me dakhil he k pehle wuzu kare phir 2 rakat salatul hajat parh kar kher o barkat, aapas ki muwafaqat o mohabbat or pakizgi, wafa k sath dawam or baqa’or nek awlad k husul k liye dua ki jaye.
    6. Aurat ka dil qarib or use manus banane k liye ek baat ye b zahen me rakhe k Nikah k baad ek nayi dunya samne aati he or usme ajib o garib dil farebiya or dil kashiya hoti he.
      aise moqe par apne aap ko sanbhalna be had zaruri he k bilkul aashiqana or walihana andaz zahir na kiya jaye warna wo aap ko apna gulam or khadim tasawwur karegi,
      phir apni baat ko manwana or apne mutalabat (demands) ko taslim karwana or manwana shuru kar degi, or na hi aurat ko apni milkiyat or ghar ki nokrani samajh kar rukha pan or kadve tikhe andaz se pesh aaye k baat karte hi chehre par bal padte ho or angare baraste ho or dulha ye khyal kare k isse meri bivi par roab jam jayega.
      (To ye kham khyali he) is tarah roab or waqar peda nahi hota balke is tarah k rawaiye or bartaw se bivi k dil me shohar k khilaf nafrat or haqarat k jazbat ubharte he.
    7. Aurat ki ghar ki malika e iffat (pakdamani) ban kar aa rahi he. fitri tor se wo aap ki mahbuba b he or aapki jivan sathi, aapke under k kamo me muaawin or madadgar b,isliye mohabbat or ulfat ka b izhar ho ot sath hi apna waqar or muqam b malhuz rahe. Isse tabiat me shiguftagi peda hogi or aapka qiwam o hakim hona b malhuze nazar rahega. Hikmat or hukumat ko mila kar kaam karege to behtari hogi.

SOHBAT KARNE KE AADAB

  • Jimaa ya sohbat (ham bistari) insan ki wo tabee or aham zarurat o taqaza he k jiske bager insan ka sahi tor se zindagi guzarna mushkil; balke taqriban na mumkin sa he.
  • Allah tala ne ye jazba sirf insano me hi nahi balke tamam janvaro me rakha he,
  • lekin shariat ne insan ki us fitri khwahish ko pura karne k liye kuch aadab or tariqe rakhe he take insan or hewan me farq ho jaye,
  • isliye uske aadab ki riaayat sharee haq hone k sath insani haq b he. Or ye sirf Haq hi nahi sawab ka kaam b he.

Huzur s.a.w Ne iIrshad Farmaya:

apni bivi se ham bistari karna b sadqa he or us par sawab milta he,

sahaba ne arz kiya, Ya Rasulallah! Ek shakhs apni bivi se nafsani khwahish puri karta he usme b sawab milega.

Aap ne Farmaya:

agar wo apni khwahish kisi galat jagah puri karta to us par gunah hota ya nahi?

Sahaba ne Arz kiya, zarur.!

farmaya jab gunah se bachne k liye halal jagah usko sarf kiya to zarur sawab milega.

-(hadith)

Baharhaal sohbat ka ek adab ye he k pehle aurat se achi, piyar bhari mithi bate kare,

usko manus kar ke apne se qarib kare, …. or aurat ko piyar mohabbat se or aisi surat ikhtiyar ki jaye k wo b aamada (taiyar) ho jaye.

Aurat ko mayil karne or uski khwahish ko ubharne ki bahut si surate he jo aurato k mizaj or halat k eatebar se mukhtalif rehti he,

masalan balo me hath phirana, honto ka bosa lena wagera wagera..

Sohbat aise waqt ki jaye jabke tabiat ka balance or tawazun durust ho na ziyada bhuk ki halat ho na bilkul pet bhara huwa ho.

na hi peshab o pakhana ka taqaza ho na nind ka galba ho, Na thakawat ho,na zahen par pareshaniyo or uljhano ka hujum ho.

Jimaa se pehle balke mulaqat se pehle miswak tooth pest se munh achi tarah saaf kar le.

room me Parda dari ka khas ehtemam kare, sohbat k waqt b satar or parde ka khyal rakhe, bilkul nanga ho kar sohbat na kare ya phir kam az kam apne upar chadar daal le.

jab aurat puri tarah sohbat k liye taiyar ho jaye jaise wo aap par girne lage,

ya badan me khinchav peda hone lage ya aankhe nashili hone lage ya jumahi lene lage wagera to

jimaa se pehle 3 baar sura e ikhlas, sura e falaq or naas bismillah samet parhne k baad ye dua parh kar sohbat (dukhul) kare.

بسمِ اللهِ ، اللهمَّ جَنِّبْنا الشيطانَ وجَنِّبِ الشيطانَ ما رزَقْتَنا ،بخاري 3271

Tarjuma:

(Allah k name se shuru karta hu,aey allah ham dono ko shaitan se door rakh or jo kuch (ladka ladki) hame nasib kare usko b shaitan se dur rakhye. )

phir jab inzal hone lage to dil hi dil me ye dua parhe.

اللّهُمَّ لاَ تَجْعَلْ لِلشَّيْطاَنِ فِيْماَ رَزَقْتَنِيْ نَصِيْباٍ

Tarjuma:

(Aey allah, na kijye kuch shaitan k liye is bacche me, jo aap ham ko nasib kare)InshaAllah agar us jimaa se bacha peda huwa to shaitan hargiz usko nuqsan na pahucha sakega.

Note: Ye sohbat ki dua aam dino ki sohbat me b parh sakte he sirf suhagraat k liye khas nahi he.

Jab inzal ho jaye to fawran na hate balke usi tarah kuch der thehra rahe or ho sake to kuch sath aurat ka de take aurat b farig ho jawe. Qk baaz aurato ko inzaal der me hota he.

Jimaa se farig hone k baad dono apni shargah ko alag alag kapdo se saaf kar le.

balke hadith ki ru se istinjaa karke or apni sharamgaho ko (garam) pani se dho kar wuzu karke soye,

isse pakizgi b hasil hogi or do bara jimaa karne me nashat b peda hoga, agar wuzu nahi kare to kam az kam tayammum hi kar le take kuch darje me paki hasil ho jaye.

Yaad rahe k aurat k hez k dino yani napaki k dino me sohbat karna haram he.

-(Ma’khuz az Tohfa e shadi: 49 ta 58. Aadabe mubasharat: 25,26,poshida raaz)

 

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